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Tue, Dec. 28th, 2004 05:34 pm


Wed, Dec. 29th, 2004 04:28 am (UTC)

I realize that you're in a constant struggle the girl situation on an almost regular basis. I think at some point, we all struggle with the Mrs/Mr. Right thing. When will he/she come into my life? Will I know the first moment I meet this person? We may never know all of the answers to our questions, but that is perfectly ok. Although we don't know what's to come, we can have faith that God know's what's going to happen. He always seems to put the right person in our lives when we aren't looking for him/her. Have patience.

Anyway, the real reason why I am responding to your message is to ask you something that many of us have been wondering about for a while. What is the deal with you and Stephanie? Both you and she have said that you are only friends and that more than likely, nothing will come from your "friendship", but you two seem a little too cozy for just friends. If we didn't know any better, we'd assume that you two are dating. You spend large quantites of time together. You always seem to eat lunch together and sit together in chapel. You two are always touching one another in one way or another. You've been seen walking Stephanie to her apartment or coming from her apartment at 3 (or later) in the morning. So, if you could please elaborate on what the deal is between the two of you, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks!

Kenneth Edward Keyn
Wed, Dec. 29th, 2004 10:23 am (UTC)

A past journal entry that helps explain a little of this

"As far as the book, I found that there was a lot I could draw from it, but I had some difficulty placing myself under only one of the five catagories. The five different love languages are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, and Physical Touch. Out of the five, I can pretty much identify with four of them; Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. I try to use all but Physical Touch as a means of expressing myself. I only refrain from Physical Touch because I'm unsure of the boundaries of others and I'd rather err on the side of caution than overstep their comfort level."

With Stephanie, I have found someone that is willing to be open and comfortable with me, which she has expressed. Therefore, I am comfortable being close to her in that way (Physical Touch). Also, she is willing to spend a good deal of time with me (Quality time). She affirms me when I talk to her, mostly over IM, and when we talk in person (Words of Affirmation). Finally, she has on multiple occasions been there to help me out when I've needed it (Acts of Service).

I, in turn, reciprocate because I value her contributions to my life and I value her as my friend. I have chosen to allow our friendship to grow with the understanding that I cannot at this time go beyond the boundaries of such. However, such boundaries are for me to decide, with clear understanding of values, morals, and counsel. I do not enter unaware nor with ill intent. I am in constant consideration of the boundaries of our friendship, though it may not seem so.

Furthermore, when I walk Stephanie back to her apartment, I do so because it is a chivalrous and gentlemanly thing to do to escort a woman back to her home. I also do it because she is my friend and I like spending time with her. Also, when I leave from her apartment at three in the morning, I'm usually coming back from watching a movie with her that is started at midnight, that lasts about two hours, and talking afterwards for about an hour.

And just as a note, I am a little more appreciative of comments when I know who they come from. When you post anonymously, please include your real name with it so I know who I'm talking to. I do not retaliate against people for what they say if it's honest and in at least a respectful attitude. As a matter of fact, I highly value anyone who calls me into accountibility for something because it gives me a chance to correct my shortcomings.

I also value those those that honestly want to understand me because there is a great deal about me that very few have even a clue about. However, do not come to me with any assumptions because you gain no understanding about me. I often look for opportunities to break down people's assumptions, so don't give me that chance.

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