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Thu, Mar. 20th, 2008 07:34 pm
Thoughts, Feelings, and Emotions

I have often said that I make a distinction between what I feel and what I know. While the basic idea behind this remains solid, I think I need to make a modification to it. After all, the primary function of a theory is to be proven wrong. Anyway, instead of saying I make a distinction, which I do, I need to include that I make this distinction, but that does not mean that what I know isn't informed by what I feel. With that comes the realization that what I feel can often be informed by what I think.

What has helped me in understanding the issue - the the best of my ability - is a new definition of what "feelings" are. Feelings are thought about emotions. There is no such thing as a "sad" emotion. You feel sad. Obviously, there are the gnawing emotions that are wordless and raw creature emotions which feed into the feeling of "sadness" and such. But sadness is not an emotion.

Taking a look at how I've directed my life in the past, I can see where this new definition would have been helpful. Long ago, I sought to control my emotions. The best I could do was reflect on my feelings. I failed because I thought that my emotions were something my mind could control. I can choose how I react to my emotions, and specifically my feelings, but the emotions themselves are untouchable. I must instead learn to treat them, not as enemies of my mind, but as informers of my reality. They do not direct my reality, but they give necessary information toward the construction and interpretation of what is real.

Now the real challenge comes in trying to integrate this into my life. The way my life is set up now, there's no room for emotions as important information. Should they rule me? No. I simply need to start giving them an ear. Otherwise, I'm going to be faced with the same problem I've been struggling with my entire self-aware life. My emotions will well up and break any dam I attempt to place in front of them. I need to re-learn. I need to re-structure. And I need to do it on my own.

That said, it doesn't mean I don't want input from others or to be isolated. That is farthest from what I need right now. I am simply saying that no one else can do this for me. I just don't know what to do yet.

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gentledarkness
gentledarkness
No
Fri, Mar. 21st, 2008 02:39 am (UTC)

What an amazing way to look at this. I've just begun to understand the tips of my own emotions and 'feelings'. The fact that you're able to distinguish the difference and then organize it in such a way leaves me speechless.


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krikketgirl
krikketgirl
Kat
Fri, Mar. 21st, 2008 11:14 am (UTC)

Very good! This is something I 'know' but still struggle with. It is good to be informed by emotions, and it is also good to know that sometimes the emotions are confused; I know that mine are sometimes connected by only the merest thread to the things that are going on around me, and I have to sit down and think, 'well, where is this coming from?'

I think of it as if I were asking someone's advice on a decision. I value their input, but I might not end up acting on their input. The value of it is in shaping my thoughts and confirming or negating certain courses of action.

Also, I hope to respond to your letter this weekend--it's been crazy busy here!


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samhobbits
samhobbits
This is where Maria talks about life
Mon, Mar. 24th, 2008 07:49 pm (UTC)

And the hard part is figuring out how to work with the feelings and emotions once they are identified. *sigh*


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abadoss
abadoss
Kenneth Edward Keyn
Sat, Mar. 29th, 2008 05:28 am (UTC)

I most definitely agree.


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