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Sun, Apr. 23rd, 2006 12:28 pm
A Question...

Is it better to have an awkward relationship with someone because you want to say something? Or to have an awkward relationship because you said it?

(this isn't meant as a rhetorical question...)

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Current Music: "Rhapsody in Blue" -David Rivas and the Warner Pacific Wind Ensemble

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fogwood214
fogwood214
Mon, Apr. 24th, 2006 01:24 am (UTC)

I personally would say the latter, becuase at least by saying what you want to say, you won't have the constant question of "What if?" I've been in both situations before, and while neither is pleasant, I at least felt better knowing I had been honest and true to what was going on inside.

*hugs*


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eclias
eclias
Andrew Kent
Mon, Apr. 24th, 2006 01:32 am (UTC)

I generally find "Whoops" to be a preferable situation to "What if."
cause then, at least you know.


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samhobbits
samhobbits
This is where Maria talks about life
Mon, Apr. 24th, 2006 02:17 am (UTC)

I dunno. I'm a bit of a chicken myself, so I am completely nonconfrontational with frustrations and crushes and what have you. I think in the long run awkwardness because of the latter is better. Good luck friend!


Oh, and did you have fun at banquet?


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katikittie
katikittie
Theresa Bowen
Mon, Apr. 24th, 2006 04:19 pm (UTC)

I've always felt that it's better if everything is out in the open...no whether or not I have followed my own policy is i different story... :)

Anyways, I think that even though yeah it'll be awkward after you say it, it'll get better as the road goes on. However if it's never said, then the awkwardness will just stay there and sit, and no one will get over it becuase it's never brought out to light.

(i like your piccie, btw)


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wiztard_mae
wiztard_mae
Jennifer
Mon, Apr. 24th, 2006 10:28 pm (UTC)

I think that the situation where you have gone ahead and said what you wanted to is probably the best. Because there is always the chance that things turn out okay, and there really is no awkwardness in the end.

But...there are plenty of times when I've opted for the awkwardness of not saying anything, because I don't feel it's worth the risk.

So, if think something is worth the risk, I'd say you should go ahead and say it. And, if the relationship is strong enough already, here's hoping that it will stay strong, and maybe even get better!


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justjuls
Julie
Fri, Apr. 28th, 2006 07:18 pm (UTC)

I agree with Jennifer. You have to weigh the risk. If it's a good freind and it might seriously dampen or (worse) ruin the relationship altogether, I wouldn't say anything. Esp. if you've given some hints and it hasn't been recipracated. But that's just me. I had a good friend I never said a word to because I jsut didn't want to risk messing up the relationship. I dropped a few hints and it got nowhere so I let it go.

On the other hand, I'm more of a person where I hate wondering "What if," so there are times when you just GOTTA take the chance and if it's Whoops, its whoops. This is better, I think when it isn't a really really good friend, but someone you know and are kind of interested in.

But that's just me! :)


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(Anonymous)
Mon, May. 8th, 2006 07:35 pm (UTC)

It's better having said it.


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