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Fri, Jun. 10th, 2005 03:37 pm
Communicating Circles and Loopholes

As is the case, usually, I've been think about a lot of things. In particular (also as is the case), I've been thinking about my relationships. I put a lot of value on friendship (which probably why I expect so much from it) and I wonder about what kinds of effects come from that. It's not a new thing for a person to value friendship and it's not new for someone, such as myself, to have a hard time qualifying, or even quantifying, what it is that he or she actually has.

On the other side of all this, I am concerned about what I'm bringing to the table. I tend to be polite and an intelligent person around others, but am I dealing in the same currency as everyone else? Are the ways in which I express my gratitude for friends making sense to everyone else? That's not to say that they can't understand, but moreso that I may not be communicating right. It's kinda like telling someone you love them by flipping them off or mooning them. Not the right kind of communication skills.

Basically, what I'm saying is that I'm worried that I'm not doing a good enough job letting people know that I appreciate their presence in my life. When I do let people know, however, it always seems to catch people off-guard or scare them away. It just seems that when I express myself, it's misinterpretted and I end up worse off for it. At the same time, I don't know how to get it across any other way.

(There were about two other paragraphs here, but it wasn't going anywhere, so I cut them out. While I excel at circular logic, I won't inflict it on anyone else...)

Anyway, when it all comes down to it, I simply want people to know I care about them, without them freaking out or misinterpretting it, and I want to be able to express that as often as I can, but I don't know how to do so other than the ways that have freaked people out in the past. End of story. I'm done writing this horribly written post. It's finished. Fin.


(Watched more of Firefly. Very very good!)

Current Mood: frustrated frustrated
Current Music: "..." -My own thoughts...

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samhobbits
samhobbits
This is where Maria talks about life
Fri, Jun. 10th, 2005 11:32 pm (UTC)

I have the same problem. When I care for someone, I express it in a way that I want it to be expressed to me. When I do it differently, people are a little weirded out. What seems to have worked for me, with my closest friends, is finding out what their love language is. What makes them feel loved and appreciated. Instead of showing love my way, I try to show love their way.
I also wanted to you know that I have been reading your last few posts, but haven't thought up a good response to it. I have been praying for you, and if you ever want to talk or hang out, feel free to come on over.


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samhobbits
samhobbits
This is where Maria talks about life
Fri, Jun. 10th, 2005 11:54 pm (UTC)

Dang it. I left a lengthy comment, but it appears to not have actually worked. It said it did...urgh. I'll have to get back to you when I have more time.


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samhobbits
samhobbits
This is where Maria talks about life
Fri, Jun. 10th, 2005 11:55 pm (UTC)

Oh wait, there it is, right above this one. ooops.


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gentledarkness
gentledarkness
No
Sat, Jun. 11th, 2005 05:27 am (UTC)

I've always been afraid of misinterpretation. That's how a lot of my past friendships crashed and burned. I never meant to sound a certain way, or have the phrase taken differently... But it's so hard when people are so different from each other when it comes to their own minds. Yes, the currency is the same, but the thought process isn't always.


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